..::..Expressing Myself Through The View Of My Lens. Simply The Random Thoughts of A LOVER About All Things Relating To Music, Love, Fashion, Food, And Everything In Between..::..
Laaaawwwwwdddd! Please help me with THIS dose of man candy! *wipes sweat from forehead* For those who don't know...but SHOULD know...this is the the infamous Derwin "Ding Dong" Davis. Not familiar with him? Then where the HELL have you been! Lol. Pooch Hall is one of the MAIN characters on BET's sitcom "The Game". Now, not going to get into the logistics of the show right now (saving that for another post) but wanting to give you ladies a treat before you bundle up under your blankies tonight. Unfortunately ladies, he's married, and GUESS TO WHO...not an African American. *sighs* BUT, like I've said earlier, love has NO COLOR. His wife is a Realtor in California. They are happily married with 3 kids. Lucky woman! *pouts* Well, if we can't have him, maybe we can have ourselves some sweet dreams about him. ;-) Enjoy the photos ladies and good night!
People fail to realize that I am a VERY observant person...ever since I was little. So things that you may think I don't see, I actually do. In this case, I have been promoting my blog all day. I'm very proud of it, because like I've stated earlier, this world is something thats completely new to me and I want to share with any and EVERYBODY. So, I shared a link of my blog with a handful of my friends on facebook. (Social networks are great tools to promote ANYTHING these days.) I happened to share the link with someone that I am currently not talking to at the moment...no bad blood between us...but someone that I still very much have love for and would support for the rest of my life as long as they were deserving of the efforts. They "liked" the link (you know facebook has that "like" button") and I guess a few minutes later decided that they wanted to delete the link that I shared with them.
Six months ago if they did that, my feelings would have been hurt in a MAJOR way and tears may of even been shed ( I'm a sensitive person), and although I do feel some type of way about it now, I just had to step back and literally shake my head. I just think it's sad. But to be fair, there is more to the story that I do not care to share and can understand why they probably do not want any remnants of me on their page. I just personally feel that no matter what happens between someone you love, whether it be a family member, a sibling, a best friend or even a an ex boyfriend and/or girlfriend, if you love that person and there is no bad air between the two of you, then why not support them and be HAPPY that they have found HAPPINESS in something particular like a new hobby such as blogging? I've been through SOOO much with this person and was literally my best friend.....but hey...I guess people handle space differently.
Ah well...guess you have no choice but to respect it....*Melly shrugs* I have NOTHING but love for them though....NOTHING!
The "Founders Favorite" is located on the very top, left hand corner
Let me tell you something about me. I am the FATTEST SLIMIEST person you will EVER meet! When I tell you I can devour food like NO OTHER--ITS A PROBLEM! Lol. Anywho, those who know me well know that I have THE BIGGEST sweet tooth! And to top it off, I'm a snacker. I gotta have my snacks man! Moving on though, I am currently indulging in one of my favorite sweets, Cold Stone's Creamery Founders Favorite Ice Cream. ( Are you drooling yet? Well, let me help you out a little.) This DELISH treat is combined with sweet vanilla ice cream, caramel and chocolate syrup, pecan nuts, and a moist brownie. Add the Cold Stone Creamery touch and BAM...you got yourself a mouth watering treat. Having a treat like this for me can really turn around a crappy day...even a crappy week. So whenever the next time you stop by at Cold Stone and liked all that I mentioned above, ask for a "Love It Founders Favorite". I promise you won't be disappointed! :-)
I know EVERYONE has been down this road before. You break up with your girlfriend/boyfriend, and if you're ending on good terms, the first suggestion is "Can we be friends?" Believe me, been there, done that! But I guess the question of the hour...or the current moment...is can you REALLY be friends with an ex? Well, I think the answer is simple to me. Depending on the type of relationship you guys had, and how it ended, I think that it is possible down the road. I think women, and I am guilty of it myself, feel like if we can't have you as a boyfriend, then why not as a friend? Because in essence, we don't want to lose them...ESPECIALLY if the relationship was GREAT. But sometimes, becoming friends with someone you we're with for so long can become painful, because there's a certain way you have to act as friends that is much different then the way you acted being a couple. It sucks, but it's the truth. I also feel that if you become friends with an ex where the relationship ended on good terms, you're bound to get back together, because you realize with time...and even hanging around them...that breaking up wasn't even the smart thing to do. Maybe at the TIME it was, but as time went by, you realize that you still in FACT still want them. (Also, BEEN THERE, DONE THAT!) But to sum this all up, YES, I think that it IS POSSIBLE. But I ALSO think that the best bet is to allow space and time from the break up to make that move. When and/or if that time comes, you'll either realize 1.) HEY...I can definitely get use to this new found friendship, 2.) You want to get back together, or 3.) It's TOO painful to be with them, without BEING with them. Catch my drift?
Now, there is another side of befriending an ex. Some people have exes from the past...say high school....that they are still cool with. I happen to be one of those people. Although we are no longer together,(and its been YEARS) we got to a point where we remained cool, and I've always admired that aspect of us, because we've NEVER crossed that line AGAIN. In my most recent relationship though, rules definitely had to be in place. I can respect the friendship that I have with this person that I've known for 10+ years, but ALSO, my relationship comes first and I definitely have to respect the person that I am involved with. I never allowed the two to intersect each other. Yes, I can and will check up on you from time to time, but KNOW that my man will ALWAYS come first. So really, it's all about your maturity level and your priorities when it comes to this side of befriending an ex. KEEP IN MIND THOUGH that exes sometimes DO HAVE hidden agendas. If that line so happens to be crossed, it is up to you to DISTANCE yourself from that person. (Assuming that you are in a relationship...if you're not...well....frankly, that's different and up to you to decide what YOU want to do about that situation)
So, I ask the question again, can you REALLY be friends with an ex? Well, I've given you my thoughts and views on the subject matter. What is your opinion?
This song is currently on repeat at the moment. "Talk That Sh*t" is on Breezy's mixtape "In My Zone 2". He has some other bangers on there as well so check it out. Also, there is "In My Zone 1" that has the constant rotated song on all the radio stations, "No BullSh*t" (another one of my favs). Breezy definitely is reppin for the DMV (which is also my native habitat :-) ), and he can do no wrong in my eyes. Well...except the whole Rihanna situation and this new blonde hair that MIGHT be secretly growing on me. *covers eyes and runs away* lol
So, I was watching this movie on BET last weekend during the late hours of the night ( I can be quite a night owl) and this handsomeness was the main character of the movie. ("Trios 3: The Escort" is what the movie is called) If you don't know this beautiful piece of eye candy, then let me introduce you. This is actor Brian J. White. If he looks familiar, that is because he appeared in the 2006 movie "Stomp The Yard". I took it upon myself to do a bit more research on him. Upon my research, I discovered that Mr. White is quite the Renaissance man. Mr. White is not ONLY an actor, but also a dancer, football player, lacrosse player, stock broker, and youth activist. Talk about an eclectic resume! It was to my disappointment when I found out that he was married, and not to an African-American beauty. Love has no color, and I'm neither discriminating or hating on who he chose to spend the rest of his life with. He may be taken, but he sure is something nice to look at. Ladies, enjoy these photos.
So, everybody should be familiar with Keri Hilson's sophomore album "No Boys Allowed" that was released back in December 2010. With the smash singles "Breaking Point" and "Pretty Girl Rock" right? In my opinion, I would have to say that this album is much better then her first. The type of music listener that I am when it comes to R&B albums and what dictates to me whether an album is a hit or not, is if it has a variety of songs that I can relate to, a couple of club bangers, and lyrical quality. Is it an album that I can listen to without skipping songs? Is this an album that will be frequently played on my I-pod? If the answer to those questions is YES, then to me, you got a good R&B album on deck.
Now, this particular song is called "Toy Solider" Keri is basically portraying the heartache she feels from a man that she thought she loved and loved her back. A man that she let her guard down for, trusted, and felt safe with--her EVERYTHING. A man who told her that she would never have to worry, would always love her, would never hurt her, and protect her--basically, her own personal LOVE SOLIDER. Unfortunately, in relationships, a lot of unexpected events can take place to change that all. Whether that is one person growing apart from the other, infidelity, verbal and/or physical abuse, the list could go on. Whatever the case may be, once that moment transpires, heartbreak takes place (and believe me, it's definitely not a GREAT feeling).
Now, this isn't the official video of the song. It is actually a fan made video that is taking snippets from R&B artist, Trey Songz "Your Side of The Bed' video, and incorporating it with the words of "Toy Solider".
Keri Hilson to me is an underrated artist. A lot of people say she can't sing, can't dance, has no swag, no personality, not pretty, etc, etc, etc. But in my opinion, I feel like she is an AMAZING artist and is in fact one of my favs. (along with Trey Songz. Hmmmm...yuummmmyyy lol). So take a listen to this song. Ladies, if you're going through a situation such as a break up, take a listen. And fellas, not understanding where she's coming from or don't understand how she's currently feeling, also take a listen.
