He Says He Loves Me..But Has Urges to Sleep With Other Women? WTF!?!?!?

Hmmm, such an interesting topic to talk about and also a new one at that. The type of person that I am when I am in a relationship, I am ALWAYS and ONLY with that person--mentally, physically, and emotionally. Yes, there are attractive men in the world, and I will look from time to time, but I never forget what I have back at home. Although this is true for myself and other females out there, it is SURPRISINGLY the same for men. You may have your own views on what love is and what it SHOULD be, but upon research....sweethearts.....it is PERFECTLY normal for a guy to love you but fantasize about sleeping with other women. I'm talking about men ALL ages and walks of life. And I'll even take it a step further...it's true for women as well.

Now, you may be sitting there in your feelings about it and maybe even questioning whether your man loves you or not, has he lost his attraction for you, is it something that you didn't do,etc...well...STOP! You need to sit back, relax, and have an honest conversation about it with him. And even do research on the subject matter. Remember that although he has these urges, there's a BIG difference between THOUGHTS and ACTIONS. Now, if you have an analytical minded man for your boyfriend *personal pause lol*, then he might take these new found urges and really analyze how he feels about you. Balance what he is hormonally feeling, mentally feeling, and how he feels about you. It it quite normal for men in there early 20s to not be ready to settle down. And it's even more normal for those men who are less experienced to want to explore life and have sex with random women. We may not think it's right, but it's once again...COMPLETELY normal.

I stated earlier that there is a big difference between thoughts and actions. If you can talk it out with your man and tell him that as long as he DOES NOT act on these urges, then there will be no problems. If you guys can agree on that then let it go, and go have some mind blowing sex to make him forget about the random chicks he has the urges to smash...lol. BUT..and this is a BIG BUT...if he's really allowing these new found feelings to get in the way how he feels about you and he is even questioning if he loves you or not because of these thoughts...then maybe it just time for some space from the relationship, because more then likely if the opportunity presented itself, he will cheat on you down the line. It is a pretty effed up situation because your feelings have to be hurt in the process, but you can respect him that much more for his honesty, and the fact that he cared enough to want to end it before he possibly hurt you.  Give him the time to figure out EXACTLY how he feels about you, and in the process if he smashes a chick or two...maybe 5...and decides that honestly he never really stopped loving you, just needed time to figure himself out, then its up to you if you want to re-open that door. (Everybody's relationship history is different.)

I think as women, are feelings get hurt real easily and we start acting based on emotions rather then logic. "How can you love me, and say all these things, say you want a future with me, you want to marry me, and blah blah blah, but don't want to be with me" Yeah...boo hoo hooooo! The truth of the matter is, is that you can't be stuck on that. It doesn't mean that the memories that was shared or the things that were said were all a lie. We are all HUMAN and have HUMANLY feelings. It isn't a crime! Just take the opportunity as a time to explore who you are. He's doing his thing, so you should as well ( not condoning jumping into the beds of randoms...unless that what you personally would like to do..whatever your heart pleases lol.) And in the process of doing each other you both realize, "I want to be with you"...then...hey...rekindle that flame and move forward in a positive direction.

Well, to make a long story short, love and sex do not correlate in the minds of the male species. Love and sex ONLY intersect when it's with the person that you really genuinely care about, love, and could see yourself being with them for the rest of your life. It's easy for men to jump in the sack with a female and have no emotional attachment. (And easy for some females as well.)

Look, I'm not a relationship expert, but it's through life experiences from others and myself that I'm able to help others with specific situations. We all have different feelings, emotions, and perceptions and that is quite fine. I'm going to open it up to whomever will like to respond below, so guys and dolls, what do you think on the subject matter? Don't be shy to leave a comment!